As some of you may know, I am officially a college grad. It feels so surreal because I’ve been in school since I was 5! As I write this I remember going into my prospective preschool with my Molly doll from “The Big Comfy Couch.” I also remember going to preschool and kindergarten every day with painted nails and perfume on. Funny how things come full circle, eh? I’m no pretentious ditz, like people made me out to be in middle school. More importantly, how I marketed myself. If you haven’t read Getting Real About Fitting In. SPOILER: Standing Out Is So Much Better I highly suggest you do, because it’s more or less of a “Wish I’d known then what I know now.” In fact, my post grad life has been a “wish I knew then what I know now.” This notion also pertains to college. Don’t get me wrong, my college experience was overall a fantastic experience, filled with growth, friends, memories, with a side of heartbreak(s), the inevitable college weight gain (which made me love my body more), and the big entree: transferring. The dessert? Self-love. Yet again, it is 100% natural to reflect.
What I wish I knew before I started college, and maybe some of you can relate, or at least learn from it include….
- Indulge in your creative side more, especially freshman year.
- If you can, go in undecided.
- Science and math in college are both hard.
- If you decide to tell people you’re switching your major, only tell your best friend and your parents.
- For Pete’s sake, don’t declare a major because you saw it in a dream.
- Taking a gap year is 100% okay. Again, wish I knew that!
- With that being said, if anyone has anything snarky to say about that, there’s that phrase, “those who mind don’t matter, those who matter don’t mind.”
- Even if you’re in college and you have to take a semester, or even a year off, that’s okay too!
- It’s okay to not have a boyfriend in your freshman year of college.
- Avoiding your ex isn’t worth starving yourself.
- Stick with learning a language, even if you’re totally FOREIGN to it. See what I did there? 😜 Learn Spanish AND French, if you want!
- Have someone who will tell you that you’re overdoing it with the drinks. It doesn’t matter if you’re a fun/funny drunk, someone still has to tell you.
- Put that elementary school health class knowledge to good use and keep it in the back of your mind that it’s always better to be safe than sorry.
- That means not getting in the car with someone who’s been drinking, letting someone walk you home, and not getting in the car with someone you met online for the first date.
- On that note, staying sober in college would be worth it. Easier said than done (thanks, peer pressure) but it’s totally fine.
- On another related note, if you’re dating someone and they’re “too tired” to walk you home, make them walk you home anyway and tell them to stop being a wuss.
- Don’t spend all your money on coffee, especially if you don’t have a meal plan.
- Again, on that note, there’s more to cafeteria food than pizza and salad.
- Don’t stay up late studying for an exam. That may have worked in high school, but in college? You’ll cherish sleep like no other, so that’s a NO.
- Practice your writing, it’ll help especially when you declare your major in an English-related field.
- Adverbs don’t belong at the beginning of a sentence.
- M.L.A and Chicago have a not-so estranged cousin: A.P.A. Don’t worry, it’s totally harmless.
- Yes, there are more than two pronouns. Get over it, bigots.
- Go to the gym outside of your gym. In fact, go to the gym period.
- You will learn what it’s like to be a “broke college student,” and yes you will have to explain yourself to people.
- There are some aspects of life you needn’t to explain. You know what those are.
- Don’t expect everyone to understand your circumstances.
- There WILL be people who misunderstand you and why you try to do. Prove them wrong and be ready to argue.
- Find a cause and be an advocate.
- Donating blood is fun and fulfilling!
- There will be a pandemic in your senior year of college that will cut your year short. Don’t worry, since I commute, I didn’t really miss much.
- Don’t be afraid to introduce yourself to people. It’s not abnormal.
- You CAN do anything you set your mind to, even if it does take trial and error.
6 thoughts on “What I wish I knew before starting college”
I learnt a lot of these too! Don’t expect everyone to understand your circumstances are words to live by! Thanks for sharing. Greetings from London.
Good post…. One thing I will add 16: If a guy is “too tired” to walk you home, make sure you’re too tired to have him over your place or to come back over his the next time he wants to see you… because if he’s that tired, he shouldn’t even invited you over.
I’ve recently just graduated as well and can relate to so many point that you made. I spent too much money on coffee and worrying about people who at the end of the day didn’t deserve my efforts. But that’s life.
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Glad it resonated!